How to Show Yourself Love
“Speak to yourself the way you speak to your best friend when they’re feeling insecure and full of doubt.” — me to me, and me to you
What does showing yourself love mean to you?
To me, it’s a lot more than lighting a candle or putting on a clay mask.
It requires me to navigate the hard stuff, to feel my emotions, to hold myself accountable, to commit to learning and growing. To reflect. To show myself grace. To take care of my physical and mental health. To accept that I’ll never be perfect. To appreciate and move my body. To eat more greens. To rest. To let go of situations that do not serve me. To show up even when I’m scared. To nurture my relationships. To remind myself that I’m worthy, I’m enough, I’m loved.
These are only a few ways I show myself love — and some are easier than others.
So…how do you?
44 Ways to Show Yourself Love (An Incomplete List)
We’re all on our own journeys, so this list will not be one-size-fits-all.
But, if you’re looking for some ideas to show yourself love this week, here’s some suggestions:
Committing to a daily (or weekly) journaling practice
Showing gratitude towards yourself (and others too)
Starting a morning meditation routine
Not checking your phone right when you wake up
Having a nice, long, stretch
Drinking water (with lemon if you’re feeling fancy)
Releasing the pressure to be perfect
Respecting your boundaries
Speaking to yourself the way you speak to someone you love
Having a slightly longer shower than usual
Cooking yourself a nice meal
Eating more greens
Taking yourself out on a date
Going to bed early
Taking the time to simply “chill out”
Buying yourself flowers
Dancing in your room
Keeping the promises you make to yourself
Moving your body to feel good, not to punish it
Reading a book that makes you think
Watching a TV show you love
Listening to a podcast that teaches you something new
Eating a baked good (or multiple)
Going to therapy if you can afford it
Getting a massage if you can afford it
Replacing that lightbulb you’ve been “meaning to get around to”
Cleaning (and decluttering) your bedroom, kitchen, bathroom, living room, etc. — not necessarily all at once
Lighting a candle, putting on a face mask, and listening to some music
Booking a flight or exploring a nearby neighbourhood/city
Nurturing your relationships (romantic and platonic)
Trying something new and being okay if you suck at it
Catching yourself when you compare your life, body, or “success” to someone else
Taking responsibility for your actions
Forgiving yourself for your mistakes
Not holding onto the past or looking too far into the future
Committing to becoming more financially literate
Spending quality time alone
Letting go of situations that do not serve you
Removing yourself from toxic relationships (romantic, workplace, etc.)
Feeling your feelings — even the tougher ones
Showing up even when you’re scared
Believing in yourself even when the little voice in the back of your head tells you otherwise
Learning how to say “no” without an explanation
Reminding yourself that you’re worthy, you’re enough, and you’re loved
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